Can you be patient in the pursuit of your dreams?

The day you set the intention to pursue your dream is not the same day you reap the rewards.

So often when we’re chasing or manifesting our dreams, our thoughts are miles ahead than where we actually are or where we’d like to be.  But who’s isn’t?  We’re already thinking 2 maybe 3 years down the road, we imagine we have a rolodex of clients just waiting to work with us, we’re meeting if not exceeding our financial objectives and opportunities are just presenting themselves on our door step.  We’re living our dream and watching it unfold.

It’s wonderful to dream and imagine what our futures will look like, see it unfolded and we’re simply living it out, but realistic that it happens overnight?  Truthfully, no.  There’s a reason why Rome wasn’t built in a day and there’s a reason why long-term goals and objectives take time to achieve.

I know for me, I’m often reminding myself to remember the stage I’m in when I’m working on my long-term goals, when my brain is already thinking about step 50, and I’ve barely completed step 2.  My self pep talk, kicks in telling myself to cherish the space I’m in and appreciate it for what it is (even if it seems as though nothing is happening) and trust that I’ll get to the destination all in due time.

Writer Steven Pressfield author of Turning Pro, The War of Art, Do The Work, The Virtues of War and his latest book, The Artist’s Journey says this perfectly:

Each season, each stage you’re in when working towards your dreams is preparing you for the next phase, the next level and offering you the opportunity to learn, fail, fall and try again.  I know, fun right?  Theres opportunity in each step before jumping to the finish line.

Give yourself the time and space to work on your dreams, your long-term goals and be patient with yourself and the process!  Besides, there’s only one of YOU and your gifts and talents are unique to you. You’re not going to miss out or lose the opportunity to do what your heart desires by putting one foot in front of the other and allowing nature to take’s its course.

This doesn’t mean you can’t work with a sense of urgency, in fact, high fives to you if you’re dedicating and committing yourself towards your dreams each and every day.  As they say, if it’s important to us, we’ll make it a priority, if it’s not, we’ll make an excuse.  What I AM saying, is to recognize that time is not working against us in the commitment of our dreams, but for us.

In the meantime, enjoy the journey, appreciate the stage/season/space you’re in and get ready for the next level in the pursuit of your dreams.

For some extra inspiration, check out entrepreneur, writer, and philanthropist, Marie Forleo’s interview with Steven Pressfield. Their conversation is full of juicy topics including, how to overcome resistance and why talent doesn’t really matter.

Now, I know I’m not the only one who get’s ahead of herself when working on my dream or a long-term goal, so I’d love to hear from you.

It’s a two-part question.

Where do you get caught up on your journey while pursuing your dreams?  Is it expectations on the speed things are happening?  Is it resistance or self-doubt?  All the above?

What can you do to stay focused and appreciate the season that you’re in RIGHT NOW?

Remember, it’s not about the destination, it’s the journey.

Leave a comment and remember, you can inspire someone with your story, so don’t be shy!

Lot’s of love

Lisa xo

Why a ‘side hustle’ and a full-time job can co-exist

So many of us are exploring our options to earn an income in new ways than ever before. The popular ‘side hustle’ is becoming more common as people explore possibilities and opportunities beyond the traditional 9-5.  For those who don’t know, a side hustle is simply a business venture or side business that you do in addition to your full-time job.

If you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to, take that passion you have for, i.e. making jewelry, baking savory sweets, painting for fun, etc. and want to create a business out of it, then dipping your toe in a side gig without completely leaving your full-time job, can be the perfect opportunity to share your passion and make money while doing so.

If you do what you’ve always done, how will you know what else you can do?

In one of my coaching sessions recently, I had a client of mine talk to me about a side hustle she created at a time when she was in between jobs. She was challenged on if she should continue to manage it as she recently landed a new job at a non-profit organization.  Well, congratulations were in order to celebrate landing a new job, and while she was over the moon excited, she was struggling on if she should continue developing her side hustle.

So, we explored this further as she really wanted to make it work given the time already invested in it.

While we covered this topic in greater detail, here are a few things we talked through.

What’s important about your side hustle?

Her side hustle is being a fitness coach.  She’s devoted to health and wellness for her own well-being and wanted to serve others in the same way given her own personal struggles and how she was able to change her life.  She realized it was important for her on a much deeper level, then just making supplemental income and trying something new.  This was an awareness we uncovered that helped her see how much of a priority this was for her.

When you envision yourself working as a fitness coach, how do you feel?

This was another great awareness for her.  When she described herself working with clients, she felt empowered, strong, and like she was making an impact in people’s lives.  It brought a sense of fulfillment she hadn’t felt in years. She loves the feeling behind doing this work and it was far more rewarding than she could have imagined.

What’s the cost of doing nothing at all?

Aside from the obvious (not feeling the fulfillment she got from being a fitness coach) she felt as though she will have wasted the investment, she already made in creating her side hustle.  She started this business venture with the intention that it would be a small, hobby like business and an opportunity to give back in a field that she personally had attributed much of her own personal transformation to.  To abandon it and not do anything, would mean to let go of her initial investment and personal fulfillment she got from it, along with losing a few clients she was already supporting.

What would success look like?

Success for her would be devoting 5-10 hours/week on her side hustle, maintaining her new full-time job and having enough energy and time to do both without compromising the other.  She could scale back or do more as needed with flexibility, the financial investment was manageable, therefore not having to make any risky or large investments.

From here, we explored options she came up with on how she would continue to develop and grow this side hustle of hers in the midst of a new job.  They aligned to the ‘WHY’ behind her side hustle which for her, was more important then just tapping into her creative potential. 

A side hustle may not be for everyone, but if you’re even the slightest bit curious or pondering taking on a new challenge, it’s a great opportunity to explore a creative venture, generate supplemental income and it’s a safe investment as you don’t have to leave a full-time job to do it. Unless of course, it turns into something where you want to!  More importantly, it can re-ignite a fulfillment you may not be currently feeling in your full-time job and reward you in ways you never would have expected.

Take a chance, test the waters, get out of your own way and try something new.  Besides, how will you know what else you can do, if you’re always doing the same thing?

What skills should you take notice of and why are they important?

What’s the most important skill you’re assessing when you’re interviewing talent?

Does a talent’s soft skill vs. hard skill and/or competencies to do a job hold the same level of importance for you?  I can probably guess that your answer would likely be no, although I’m sure you would agree it’s important just not as important as the hard skills to actually do the job.

In a world where artificial intelligence is creeping its way into many different industries and jobs, there will be forever the skills that AI simply will not be able to offer or do. That’s the human skills that we bring to the table, or otherwise known as soft skills.  Effective communication, compassion, empathy, passion, drive, etc. just to name a few. 

Why is this important and how does it effect you?  Well, if you’re a company that hires people, you want to focus on the FULL package a talent has to offer; meaning ALL skills are becoming increasingly important.  Not just their ability to perform a task and do a job.  It all matters.  In fact, LinkedIn‘s data as noted in their 50 Big Ideas in 2019:  What to watch in the year ahead article, suggests the fastest growing skills gap are related to soft skills.

If you’re someone who will likely be looking for a job at some point in your lifetime, your creative abilities and soft skills are what will set you apart.  They are the skills that can not be taken away from you and be automated.  The workplace is evolving, technology is constantly changing and skills and jobs are being automated.  As a job seeker, you want to understand how this affects you.

Now, I’m sure you can imagine, soft skills I find are typically more difficult to measure and assessing them can be tricky.  Simply reviewing a resume for key or ‘buzz’ words isn’t enough either.

For hiring managers and recruiters, here are some questions you can ask to help measure a few of the more common and important soft skills during interviews:

  • Communication skillsTell me a time when your communication skills were imperative to a problem you solved?  How were they used and what was important about that? (here, you’re not just looking for oral or written. Communication also includes what’s not being said – body language. You want to go deeper here)
  • Adaptability & FlexibilityHow have you dealt with change in your organization and what soft skills were critical to demonstrate during that time?
  • CollaborationWhat are some examples you can share when you’ve had to work with others you don’t know and how did you approach the situation? 
  • EmpathyShare an example of a customer service issue with your company or make one up.  Ask what soft skills they would demonstrate in that situation

I would also add to these.  You can also ask a candidate to share a real-life work issue at their current company (if they’re employed), and what soft skills are needed to solve it.

There are all kinds of different questions you can come up with and likely add to this.  The ones above are those I have found helpful in my experience, but please feel free to play around with these.   Also, don’t be shy to ask directly, what soft skills they deem themselves to be strengths of their’s and how they would relate to the position at hand.  As simplistic and obvious as it may sound, it’s a good question to ask, as chances are, candidates aren’t commonly being asked about their soft skills.

What are your thoughts on the skills gap being related to soft skills?  

How important are soft skills when you’re assessing talent for your organization? 

Please share your thoughts below! 

Thanks so much for your time,

Lisa  😉

Resolutions, Goals, Plans – you don’t need a new year, you just need to start

I can’t believe I’m writing this to you as we fast approach the end of 2018!!

Where did the time go? I don’t know about you, but time has been flying by for me and I can’t believe we’re already planning for 2019.

For so many of us, I know 2018 has been a crazy ride full of growth, stumbles, transformation, high’s, low’s, and lessons.  I know for me; the back half of this year alone was FULL of new learning’s to say the least, all in an effort to push myself and learn something new.  More than just learn something, but really go out of my comfort zone.  I’d say I was successful. 🙂

Having said that, as we’re nearing the end of this crazy year, it’s also the time of year when the buzz in the air is all about new year’s resolution’s and what NEW goals, we’re going to make for ourselves.  There might be some goals that were set for this year but for whatever reason, you didn’t get around to them, so they may make the list again for 2019.  It’s also the time of year that’s typically joined by some sort of inspirational quote that’s along the lines of, “2018 changed me, 2019 I’m coming back” OR “leaving this year behind and walking into 2019 like..✨?.” 

The truth is, if you’re going to set goals for yourself and plan for the year ahead, don’t WAIT for a new year to do it.  Start NOW! I know that if you REALLY want something bad enough for yourself – regardless of what it is, you’ll start right away and won’t wait for a new year to start working towards it, right?

What I would encourage you to do is, in reflecting on the year that’s about to wrap up before our very eyes, ask yourself a few questions.  This might even help inspire how to approach setting out NEW goals for yourself as you look to 2019.

  • What did I accomplish this year that I am most proud of?
  • What lessons did I learn this year that will help me move forward?
  • What did I learn that I can not only continue to apply in my own life but help someone else?
  • What’s one thing I need to change (if anything), that can help me with… this could be a limiting belief, and/or story, a pattern, a habit you want to break, etc. (fill in the blank)

Remember, goal setting shouldn’t be a once a year process!  Yes, it’s a great opportunity to be making a list and starting out a new year fresh but consider when you’re most likely going to accomplish a goal.  It’s not at the start of a new year; it’s when you’re ready, you’re willing and you WANT a desired outcome – whatever that is for you.

I can’t wait to head into 2019 and I’m so excited for so many of you who will be entering new chapters of your lives, starting new jobs, celebrating new milestones, gearing up for a life change – so many wonderful things to celebrate! 

While you’re looking forward to starting the new year, don’t forget to celebrate how far you’ve come!! Celebrate YOU – not just the big wins but the little wins too.  You might think you’ve done nothing at all, but it’s often in the smallest of efforts that we’ve shifted, we’ve learned something, we’ve grown, we’ve evolved, we’ve transformed. 

So, if you’re planning for the year ahead and you’re partaking in a similar exercise, what’s at the top of your list for 2019?

I wish you SO much success in the new year ahead!  I hope you enjoy this holiday season and sending you and your families all my love. ❤

Lisa

xo

Not sure what direction to take following your mat leave? Here’s what you should be thinking about

Taking a break from a thriving career to focus on starting and building a family can be such an exciting time.  For my go-getter, hustler, career-driven women, I know this can also be an adjustment when taking that step back.

Now that your mat leave is up and you’re ready to return to the workforce, you might realize the adjustment is more difficult than you anticipated.

So where do you start?

If you happen to work in a corporate environment and returning to the same job, your adjustment might look different than someone who is taking a leap a faith and deciding to start something completely different and new.  Particularly if you took more than the traditional 1 year of maternity leave (standard in Canada), but perhaps, a couple of years off.

The return can be confusing, difficult to understand where to start, and you may have a slew of other questions you might be challenging yourself with.

How do I re-brand myself when I’ve been out of the workforce for so long?

What level should I be targeting?  (you might consider this depending on where you were in your career before you left, etc.)

My resume has a gap in it, how do I best reflect my time off and stand out?

Naturally, the answers and your direction will vary for each of you depending on your needs. 

Some of you might want to return p/t, while some might want/need flexible hours, some need something close to home and are not open to a commute, etc.  Starting your own business may become an even more attractive option, as a result, to cover off on all these factors, thereby eliminating a traditional job search altogether. 

The idea is, you need to get *crystal clear* on what your “must haves” are and what you’re looking for.  From there, it will be much easier to target the appropriate opportunities for you and embark on a search.

Often, I’ve had candidates share they had a resume writer put their resume together as they were preparing to embark on a job search.  If you do take this route, make sure you know what you’re looking for and what your target is beforehand.  No sense in updating a resume to simply look ‘eye-catching’ on paper if you have no idea what you want, right?  Work from the inside out. 

  • Self-reflect – What’s important to you now that you’ve had a child?
  • Consider what you loved about your career – industry, role, etc.
  • What direction do you want to go in now – take a step back?  Go in a new direction altogether?
  • Think about your strengths and skills 

When it comes to your resume, include the things you’ve been doing while you’ve been off work such as:

  • Volunteer work – any charity work, whether you simply participated or organized directly
  • Contributing to your son/daughters’ school – PTA committee or other
  • Freelance/consulting/project related assignments you did even for a short period of time
  • Courses/workshops/conferences that you might have participated in or attended to keep up to date with what’s been going on in your industry
  • If you contributed to a blog or even started one while you were off to share your insights, etc.

The idea here is you want to be able to highlight anything you’ve been doing in addition to raising a family.  Without meeting and interviewing you in person to explain your gap while on maternity leave, your background and experience is what people see on paper, so you want to highlight everything and anything that is relevant.

The little things are important so don’t leave them out!

The transition back to the workforce can be an adjustment regardless of which direction you take.  Taking the time to self-reflect, figure out what your vision for yourself looks like returning to the workforce, can help alleviate the stress associated with the lead up when it’s time to go back to work. 

I’d love to hear from you as always!  Remember, your comments can help inspire someone who may need to hear YOUR perspective, so don’t be shy!

If you’ve ever made the transition back to the workforce after a maternity leave, if you found you struggled to make the return, what could have helped with the transition to make it easier for you?

Thanks for stopping by, and if you’re in this very place in your life, I wish you the greatest success on your return!

Lisa ❤

You’ve had one, I’ve had one – here’s how to talk about it in an interview

Most of us can relate to going through a bad experience throughout our careers, some of us, unfortunately, more than once.  Anything from a terrible boss, to being fired, to dealing with a difficult peer/colleague, to a toxic work environment, the list goes on and can all be attributed to bad experiences on the job.

The truth is, when it comes to our careers, there are times we fall short, even when we do our due diligence to make the right choices with the information we have.  For instance, we miss a sign, ignore that feeling we might have about an opportunity whether it’s the people, structure, culture, etc.  Before you know it, we find ourselves choosing a company that ultimately is in misalignment with what you’re looking for and what’s right for us.

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When turning down a MAJOR business opportunity is the RIGHT decision

These days, so many of us have a ‘side hustle’ in addition to a full-time gig OR you may just be a straight up entrepreneur and that’s all you’ve ever known. The corporate gigs haven’t been your thing and you only know how to work for yourself, following your dreams whether through a product or service-based business.

Maybe you’re on the other side of that and have been in a full-time job and have made the decision to leave and pursue a business of your own. (yay! Koodo’s to you)

While the better part of my career has had me focus on people and cultivating relationships with all sorts of talent, I’ve learned on my personal journey how important marketing is to any business.  Regardless of your path as an entrepreneur or small business owner.

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Lack of Resources? You’re not doomed to fail if you just consider this!

You’re in the early stages of your business and don’t quite have the funds yet to invest in ALL the resources you’re anticipating you need.

So how do you decide what to invest in and what to hold off on?  There’s the obvious that comes to mind that people instantly consider – technology, people, marketing, social media, etc.

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Have you ever been in the transition stage?

Ok, this one is a little longer than some of my other posts so I hope you’ll stick around long enough to read to the end as it’s got some helpful insights that I hope you’ll find helpful.  If it doesn’t apply to you today, maybe someone in your life can benefit, so please share it with them.

You’ve been laid off.  You’ve spent 10 + years with your employer, given them your all, dedicated your time and energy to achieving a common goal and find yourself shocked and an emotional mess.

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Are you self-promoting or are you just bragging?

OK so how do you balance self-promoting and ensure you’re not just bragging about yourself and your accomplishments?

For so long, we’ve been taught that we have to be our own self-advocates when it comes to our health and really when it comes to anything we want.  Especially in our careers.  If we don’t go after what we want (our dreams, that job, that promotion, etc.) we’ll always be in the same spot and our efforts and talents can go unrecognized.

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