Is fear keeping you stuck? Here are 4 questions to ask yourself

Fear in the spiritual sense is the absence of love.  In everyday life, it looks like this…

“I need to make enough money in case something happens.”

                                      Or

“I have to go to that conference, or I won’t meet any new clients.”

                                      Or

“If I ask for time off, they’ll think I’m lazy and not working hard enough.”

                                      Or

“If I don’t go to that party, they’ll judge me and won’t invite me next time.”

These are just some of the everyday thoughts and stories we tell ourselves that ultimately create a belief that tells us we HAVE to do something which in most cases goes against what we actually want to do.  We create a narrative, worrying about something that hasn’t even happened and thinking about what others will think of you before you even take action.

I’ve had my own share of fear and still do to this day, but I’ve learned to recognize it, understand where it stems from and still choose to act on the smallest of decisions to some of the most important ones in my life.

I’ve spoken about fear before because I believe so strongly that so many of us can benefit from understanding that everything we actually want is on the other side of that fear.  The biggest opportunity you have is understanding where it comes from so when/if it comes up again, you can move past it with greater ease.

A fear-based mentality inevitably finds its way in all areas of our lives and unfortunately can stop us in our tracks from taking inspired action or any action at all to something we want to do!

If you can find that place where when you know you’re being crippled by a fear-based thought, take a step back and ask yourself:

  • How do I feel about this thought?
  • What is this feeling trying to tell me?
  • Where is this thought coming from?
  • What are the thoughts and feelings that will serve me moving forward?

Remember, your fears don’t always come in the major moments or milestones in your life, they can also creep in the smallest most insignificant of experiences!  The key is to be aware of them so you can face them and move past them.

Let me know what you think, what are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Where has fear impacted your daily life?

Have you been able to recognize a fear you had and still move forward?

Thanks for stopping by and remember, you’re stronger than your fears, more courageous than you think and braver than you know!

Lisa xo

How YOU can use a change in your organization to your advantage

How many of you have been part of an organization where you were impacted by some kind of change?  I can see most of us raising our hand.  Whether it’s leadership changes, structural changes, changes in policies, etc.

When you’re part of a small organization, you often feel those changes much more than if you were working for a global organization with a large employee base.  While you may not be able to use every change that takes place to your advantage, there ARE opportunities that can arise from some of those changes if you choose to act on them.

The idea here is, as an employee, learning opportunities come in ALL different ways and finding what that is in your current circumstances is a choice you always have.  How you respond to those changes is up to you.

In my experience, I’ve often seen a lack of manpower (one of many resources that are often needed) be a common challenge come up in organizations.  So, what can that mean for you in your organization?

  • Can you create a new position?
  • Can you learn a new skill and apply it to your role?
  • Can you distribute the work that needs to get done amongst your colleagues/peers?
  • Is the work that ‘needs’ to get done REALLY important or can you dissolve it?
  • Can you automate it?

Think outside the box and consider where and what the opportunity can mean for YOU as the employee.  Changes within an organization doesn’t always mean you need to run for the hills, however, if you do want to stay, consider how you can use the changes to your advantage.

Don’t be afraid to have an open, transparent conversation with your manager and/or leadership team and propose your ideas.

Leaders – don’t be afraid to take note and HEAR your employee’s out when they’re coming to you with ideas and recommendations.  Part of going through any change is including and considering your people in that change.

If you’re going through any changes right now in your organization, what will you propose that can not only help the organization, but help YOU learn something new?

Keep an open mind – learning opportunities come in all shapes and sizes – the best ones are also those that YOU can create! 😉

All my appreciation,

Lisa ❤

How to be a bada$$ at work and stay true to your values!

Whether you work in a corporate job or are an entrepreneur, there’s always a balancing act of how much of the real you to show.  You want to be true to who you are, yet societal rules, unspoken politics and corporate hierarchy (in some cases) dictate that only a part of you shows up, while the other parts remain hidden.

But what if something happens at your company where your values are compromised?

Recently this came up for me in my own personal experience and as much as I’d love to say it was easy to deal with and justice prevailed, sadly it didn’t, and it got me thinking. 

How often does this happen in the workplace and how do people deal with it? 

Throughout my career, time and experience have told me this is more common than you might think, and most people don’t know how to deal with it.  I’ve had countless conversations with professionals who have shared a story or an experience they’ve had where something happened that was a direct clash with their values.  In fact, in many cases, they were having a conversation with me because they chose to leave their jobs due to a misalignment with the company and their core values.

So, I got curious and thought about a few things to keep in mind if you’re faced with a situation at work that infringes on your values:

1. What’s the lesson you can learn from that experience?

When something happens where you feel your values were compromised, what’s the lesson you can walk away with?  Are you able to take a step back and consider, what is this experience trying to teach you?  Lessons sometimes come much later after an experience has occurred, but sometimes, it doesn’t take long to realize what an experience is trying to show you if you’re aware!

2. Is there an opportunity to educate your company to help them evolve?

Yes, it’s possible your efforts could fall on deaf ears and your company may not be ready to ‘hear’ or be open to receiving your message to help them evolve.  At the very least, it’s an opportunity to educate where they may be missing the mark.

3. How can you use the experience to help yourself and someone else? 

The disconnect you experienced with your company could be the very gift that you can give to not only your company or someone you know to help them evolve, but yourself.  It’s very easy to internalize and personalize an experience where you feel like you’re the only one in your organization that stands strong to holding your values close to heart.  Instead, consider this a GIFT that you’re honoring your values and recognize that they’re important enough to you to stand for.  See this for what it is and use it to help yourself assess any next steps or course of action.

It’s never easy when you’re put in a situation where your values are being compromised, especially in the workplace.  While it might be difficult to just up and leave your organization if it’s not an immediate option for you, you do always have a choice. 

Use your voice for good and speak your truth even if your voice shakes.

Have you ever faced an experience in your workplace or with a client where your values were compromised? 

I’d love to hear your thoughts.  I know it’s a bit of sticky topic but one I hope you see how helpful it could be to share with others how you might have dealt with this in your own experience.  If you have anything else to add to this topic, I’d love to hear it just the same!

Lot’s of love

Lisa 

Can you be patient in the pursuit of your dreams?

The day you set the intention to pursue your dream is not the same day you reap the rewards.

So often when we’re chasing or manifesting our dreams, our thoughts are miles ahead than where we actually are or where we’d like to be.  But who’s isn’t?  We’re already thinking 2 maybe 3 years down the road, we imagine we have a rolodex of clients just waiting to work with us, we’re meeting if not exceeding our financial objectives and opportunities are just presenting themselves on our door step.  We’re living our dream and watching it unfold.

It’s wonderful to dream and imagine what our futures will look like, see it unfolded and we’re simply living it out, but realistic that it happens overnight?  Truthfully, no.  There’s a reason why Rome wasn’t built in a day and there’s a reason why long-term goals and objectives take time to achieve.

I know for me, I’m often reminding myself to remember the stage I’m in when I’m working on my long-term goals, when my brain is already thinking about step 50, and I’ve barely completed step 2.  My self pep talk, kicks in telling myself to cherish the space I’m in and appreciate it for what it is (even if it seems as though nothing is happening) and trust that I’ll get to the destination all in due time.

Writer Steven Pressfield author of Turning Pro, The War of Art, Do The Work, The Virtues of War and his latest book, The Artist’s Journey says this perfectly:

Each season, each stage you’re in when working towards your dreams is preparing you for the next phase, the next level and offering you the opportunity to learn, fail, fall and try again.  I know, fun right?  Theres opportunity in each step before jumping to the finish line.

Give yourself the time and space to work on your dreams, your long-term goals and be patient with yourself and the process!  Besides, there’s only one of YOU and your gifts and talents are unique to you. You’re not going to miss out or lose the opportunity to do what your heart desires by putting one foot in front of the other and allowing nature to take’s its course.

This doesn’t mean you can’t work with a sense of urgency, in fact, high fives to you if you’re dedicating and committing yourself towards your dreams each and every day.  As they say, if it’s important to us, we’ll make it a priority, if it’s not, we’ll make an excuse.  What I AM saying, is to recognize that time is not working against us in the commitment of our dreams, but for us.

In the meantime, enjoy the journey, appreciate the stage/season/space you’re in and get ready for the next level in the pursuit of your dreams.

For some extra inspiration, check out entrepreneur, writer, and philanthropist, Marie Forleo’s interview with Steven Pressfield. Their conversation is full of juicy topics including, how to overcome resistance and why talent doesn’t really matter.

Now, I know I’m not the only one who get’s ahead of herself when working on my dream or a long-term goal, so I’d love to hear from you.

It’s a two-part question.

Where do you get caught up on your journey while pursuing your dreams?  Is it expectations on the speed things are happening?  Is it resistance or self-doubt?  All the above?

What can you do to stay focused and appreciate the season that you’re in RIGHT NOW?

Remember, it’s not about the destination, it’s the journey.

Leave a comment and remember, you can inspire someone with your story, so don’t be shy!

Lot’s of love

Lisa xo

Why a ‘side hustle’ and a full-time job can co-exist

So many of us are exploring our options to earn an income in new ways than ever before. The popular ‘side hustle’ is becoming more common as people explore possibilities and opportunities beyond the traditional 9-5.  For those who don’t know, a side hustle is simply a business venture or side business that you do in addition to your full-time job.

If you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to, take that passion you have for, i.e. making jewelry, baking savory sweets, painting for fun, etc. and want to create a business out of it, then dipping your toe in a side gig without completely leaving your full-time job, can be the perfect opportunity to share your passion and make money while doing so.

If you do what you’ve always done, how will you know what else you can do?

In one of my coaching sessions recently, I had a client of mine talk to me about a side hustle she created at a time when she was in between jobs. She was challenged on if she should continue to manage it as she recently landed a new job at a non-profit organization.  Well, congratulations were in order to celebrate landing a new job, and while she was over the moon excited, she was struggling on if she should continue developing her side hustle.

So, we explored this further as she really wanted to make it work given the time already invested in it.

While we covered this topic in greater detail, here are a few things we talked through.

What’s important about your side hustle?

Her side hustle is being a fitness coach.  She’s devoted to health and wellness for her own well-being and wanted to serve others in the same way given her own personal struggles and how she was able to change her life.  She realized it was important for her on a much deeper level, then just making supplemental income and trying something new.  This was an awareness we uncovered that helped her see how much of a priority this was for her.

When you envision yourself working as a fitness coach, how do you feel?

This was another great awareness for her.  When she described herself working with clients, she felt empowered, strong, and like she was making an impact in people’s lives.  It brought a sense of fulfillment she hadn’t felt in years. She loves the feeling behind doing this work and it was far more rewarding than she could have imagined.

What’s the cost of doing nothing at all?

Aside from the obvious (not feeling the fulfillment she got from being a fitness coach) she felt as though she will have wasted the investment, she already made in creating her side hustle.  She started this business venture with the intention that it would be a small, hobby like business and an opportunity to give back in a field that she personally had attributed much of her own personal transformation to.  To abandon it and not do anything, would mean to let go of her initial investment and personal fulfillment she got from it, along with losing a few clients she was already supporting.

What would success look like?

Success for her would be devoting 5-10 hours/week on her side hustle, maintaining her new full-time job and having enough energy and time to do both without compromising the other.  She could scale back or do more as needed with flexibility, the financial investment was manageable, therefore not having to make any risky or large investments.

From here, we explored options she came up with on how she would continue to develop and grow this side hustle of hers in the midst of a new job.  They aligned to the ‘WHY’ behind her side hustle which for her, was more important then just tapping into her creative potential. 

A side hustle may not be for everyone, but if you’re even the slightest bit curious or pondering taking on a new challenge, it’s a great opportunity to explore a creative venture, generate supplemental income and it’s a safe investment as you don’t have to leave a full-time job to do it. Unless of course, it turns into something where you want to!  More importantly, it can re-ignite a fulfillment you may not be currently feeling in your full-time job and reward you in ways you never would have expected.

Take a chance, test the waters, get out of your own way and try something new.  Besides, how will you know what else you can do, if you’re always doing the same thing?

Give yourself the gift to BE Present

Photo by Lisa De Nicola

Welcome back!  To a new year, a new start and 365 days ahead of you to DO whatever it is your heart ❤ desires.

Coming back from a relaxed holiday with lots of time for rest, sleep (LOTS of sleep), family time, filling my belly (and soul) with love and yummy treats.  I’m looking forward to getting back into the swing of things.  The return to work after the Christmas holidays can sometimes be overwhelming as many of us are often being greeted by an avalanche of work that is just waiting to get done. 

There’s a sense of urgency to get things started, to gain some momentum having been off and business dormant for a few weeks.  To get some traction on projects that might have been set aside to get done or started on in the new year.  Not to mention, re-adjusting back to your weekday work routine of early mornings, preparing for your commute ahead (mentally and emotionally), early nights and let’s not forget your diet.  Gone are the holiday treats and magically you’re back to morning smoothies, soups and salads for lunch, etc.  😉

So how do you ensure a great start to the year without losing yourself in the hustle and bustle of routine? 

BE PRESENT.

Being present allows us to BE in the moment.  It helps us stay connected in the task at hand, the person we’re having a conversation with, or the meeting we’re trying to participate in, etc.  It also allows us to remain grounded and puts us in a relaxed state.  Particularly if you’re one who easily gets anxious by constantly projecting to the future or playing into the distractions that surround us all.  Just like maintaining balance in your day to day has its benefits, being present is equally just as important.  You can easily notice some of the benefits listed above once put into practice.


Photo by Nathan Dumlao on Unsplash

Believe me, I recognize the number of distractions we’re surrounded by.  Including those convenient devices we all walk around with 24/7, which can seem impossible to let go of all the time.  But the beauty that detaching and being in the moment in just the smallest of ways can offer us, is priceless.

In a world where we’re constantly planning for our futures or worrying about what happened yesterday, it’s no wonder we can’t appreciate the present moment for what it is!  The truth is, you’ll never have that same moment again if you’re too busy focused on the next thing to do.  What time you have to go to the gym, or that you have that appointment you need to make before you forget, etc. etc. etc.

I try my best to put this into practice every day, whether I’m by myself or with people and while it’s a work in progress, the benefits I can confidently say make a difference.  Not just for me, but the people I’m with as well.

Start with baby steps that can help shift your behavior.

Put your phone away when going to a business meeting or meeting a friend for coffee.  Not on the table face down – AWAY.

Take notice of your breathing and the way you feel whether you’re alone or with people.

If you have a nagging or recurring thought, notice it and let it pass.  Re-focus your attention to what you’re doing.  Writing down your thoughts or journaling before starting your day can help let go of any thoughts you might have and clear your head if you have a busy mind.

If you have someone in your life who is FABULOUS at being present – take notice of them!  Being around others who are equally present can make it easier to learn from and adopt simple practices.

Take notice of your surroundings.  Even if you go to the same coffee shop, ride the same bus or train everyday to work.  Try doing so without music in your ears, reading your book or scrolling through Instagram.  Try just sitting there without having to do something.

Again, baby steps to shift behavior.  It’s about progress, not perfection.  Give yourself the gift of BEING present and take joy in the benefits.

As always, I’d love to hear from you and please don’t be shy to share your thoughts!

What are some ways that help you BE present?

Thank you SO MUCH for starting 2019 with me!  I’m looking forward to the year ahead and what’s to come.  Thank YOU again for allowing me to fill your inbox each week, your time, attention, and energy. 🙏

With so much heart ❤ , 

Lisa xo

Not sure what direction to take following your mat leave? Here’s what you should be thinking about

Taking a break from a thriving career to focus on starting and building a family can be such an exciting time.  For my go-getter, hustler, career-driven women, I know this can also be an adjustment when taking that step back.

Now that your mat leave is up and you’re ready to return to the workforce, you might realize the adjustment is more difficult than you anticipated.

So where do you start?

If you happen to work in a corporate environment and returning to the same job, your adjustment might look different than someone who is taking a leap a faith and deciding to start something completely different and new.  Particularly if you took more than the traditional 1 year of maternity leave (standard in Canada), but perhaps, a couple of years off.

The return can be confusing, difficult to understand where to start, and you may have a slew of other questions you might be challenging yourself with.

How do I re-brand myself when I’ve been out of the workforce for so long?

What level should I be targeting?  (you might consider this depending on where you were in your career before you left, etc.)

My resume has a gap in it, how do I best reflect my time off and stand out?

Naturally, the answers and your direction will vary for each of you depending on your needs. 

Some of you might want to return p/t, while some might want/need flexible hours, some need something close to home and are not open to a commute, etc.  Starting your own business may become an even more attractive option, as a result, to cover off on all these factors, thereby eliminating a traditional job search altogether. 

The idea is, you need to get *crystal clear* on what your “must haves” are and what you’re looking for.  From there, it will be much easier to target the appropriate opportunities for you and embark on a search.

Often, I’ve had candidates share they had a resume writer put their resume together as they were preparing to embark on a job search.  If you do take this route, make sure you know what you’re looking for and what your target is beforehand.  No sense in updating a resume to simply look ‘eye-catching’ on paper if you have no idea what you want, right?  Work from the inside out. 

  • Self-reflect – What’s important to you now that you’ve had a child?
  • Consider what you loved about your career – industry, role, etc.
  • What direction do you want to go in now – take a step back?  Go in a new direction altogether?
  • Think about your strengths and skills 

When it comes to your resume, include the things you’ve been doing while you’ve been off work such as:

  • Volunteer work – any charity work, whether you simply participated or organized directly
  • Contributing to your son/daughters’ school – PTA committee or other
  • Freelance/consulting/project related assignments you did even for a short period of time
  • Courses/workshops/conferences that you might have participated in or attended to keep up to date with what’s been going on in your industry
  • If you contributed to a blog or even started one while you were off to share your insights, etc.

The idea here is you want to be able to highlight anything you’ve been doing in addition to raising a family.  Without meeting and interviewing you in person to explain your gap while on maternity leave, your background and experience is what people see on paper, so you want to highlight everything and anything that is relevant.

The little things are important so don’t leave them out!

The transition back to the workforce can be an adjustment regardless of which direction you take.  Taking the time to self-reflect, figure out what your vision for yourself looks like returning to the workforce, can help alleviate the stress associated with the lead up when it’s time to go back to work. 

I’d love to hear from you as always!  Remember, your comments can help inspire someone who may need to hear YOUR perspective, so don’t be shy!

If you’ve ever made the transition back to the workforce after a maternity leave, if you found you struggled to make the return, what could have helped with the transition to make it easier for you?

Thanks for stopping by, and if you’re in this very place in your life, I wish you the greatest success on your return!

Lisa ❤

Playing it safe? How lack of creativity & fear are holding you back! ?

Do you ever feel like there’s only ONE way to do something?  Does confidence and fear get in the way of your ability to be creative and move forward?

This past weekend, I happened to get caught up with a friend and our catch up led to a rich conversation on playing it safe, fear, confidence and timing to name just a few of the things we touched on.

We started off catching up on our respective Euro trips that we both took separately at the end of the summer, exchanging stories and laughs and sharing our most memorable moments.  We then switched gears to talking about our realities and she shared she was on a quest to figuring out what to do next in her job.

She’s spent a considerable amount of her career with one company where she’s progressed but had reached a plateau and was feeling like she was consistently getting overlooked for promotions.  She was ready to get to the next level and was feeling like not only was she being looked over, but she wasn’t provided a clear path on what she needed to do to get there and time was ticking.  At this point, her confidence has begun to be affected, self-worth, and her own capabilities were just some of the things she started to doubt within herself.

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Leading your company through adversity? 3 things to keep in mind as leader

The workforce has changed tremendously over the last 10 + years.  Virtual set up’s, flexible working environments, social media has exploded and has influenced and impacted business’s and the way we do business.  Not to mention the landscape for talent has changed across the board with an increase in competition and more choices than we had before.

So, with how quickly and how vast the workforce has changed and evolved, shouldn’t leaders also evolve in their approach when it comes to challenging times in your business?

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Have you ever been in the transition stage?

Ok, this one is a little longer than some of my other posts so I hope you’ll stick around long enough to read to the end as it’s got some helpful insights that I hope you’ll find helpful.  If it doesn’t apply to you today, maybe someone in your life can benefit, so please share it with them.

You’ve been laid off.  You’ve spent 10 + years with your employer, given them your all, dedicated your time and energy to achieving a common goal and find yourself shocked and an emotional mess.

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